When the planet of love (Venus) is combined with the planet of spirituality and dreams (Neptune) in the birth chart, you are dealing with a sensitive romantic. You are also looking at someone who can fool himself and his partner in a relationship.
The hard aspects (conjunction, square, opposition, inconjunct) between natal Venus and Neptune create tension that can lead to dizzying romantic highs and crushing lows. Neptune’s magic glorifies Venus’ concepts of love and relationships.
The Venus/Neptune personality
The hallmark of the Venus/Neptune person is their constant search and dissatisfaction. Their pattern goes something like this: they are attracted to someone (usually a creative person) and look at this miracle through rose-colored glasses.
They believe they have found The One and profess their eternal love. The Venus/Neptune person sets up a pedestal on which their partner is placed. Emotions are feverish and glorious, until the Venus/Neptune person notices flaws in their soulmate.
This period of awakening can be excruciatingly painful for the Venus/Neptune person. They may realize that their love was a misplaced form of compassion when they tried to “save” someone. Or they may just realize that their partner is human (just like everyone else).
Disappointment arises and both parties feel betrayed. The Venus/Neptune person wonders what happened to their divine soulmate. Their partner wonders why the initially romantic Venus/Neptune person has become distant and vague.
High standards for Venus/Neptune
Disillusionment is the sticking point with hard Venus/Neptune aspects. Neptune’s energy is not rooted in the real world; it refers to the promise of spiritual perfection and union with the Creator/Higher Power – very high standards that mortals must meet.
Combine this with Venus, and you have someone who is good at offering universal love (they feel compassion for groups of people), but who has difficulty offering real, one-on-one love.
The frustrating glimpse of divine perfection (or the fantasy) that Neptune offers creates a constant flow of possibilities that poisons their relationships in real life. The fantasy-based love they offer is simply not real.
Neptune also adds a wonderful flow of imagination to Venus’ desire to interact with others. Venus/Neptune people have fantastic imaginations that extend to a cherished (and highly detailed) romantic fantasy. Usually it concerns an ideal partner.
In his excellent book Astrology: transformation and empowermentpoints out Adrian Ross Duncan every lover they become involved with is compared to this fantasy and ultimately found wanting. The love they have will always suck the life out of them through their longing for the love they lack.
How to Manage Your Relationship with a Venus/Neptune Person
What are your options if you are the partner of a Venus/Neptune person? Well, you can’t meet their expectations. No one can. Chances are you’re a creative type, so it’s best to stay creative.
Follow that muse.
That’s where you connect with your Venus/Neptune partner and get support from them. Keep that in mind too Venus/Neptune people have trouble saying ‘no’. Their boundaries and self-esteem (Venus) are blurred by the compassion and empathy of Neptune.
They can be easily taken advantage of and confuse sacrifice with love. It’s up to you to set the boundaries and even say ‘no’ to them every now and then.
Transformation of the Venus/Neptune energy
Transforming this energy into a more positive manifestation is difficult for the Venus/Neptune person. The first step is for them to admit that the perfect relationship does not exist. This is an addictive dream that they have harbored for years, so it is not easy for them to just let go.
These are extremely sensitive people who are caught up in the universal sadness and disappointment that everyone feels. Neptune’s gift of heightened sensitivity can be overwhelming. It’s not an easy burden to carry, and that dream is part of their escape.
Part of Neptune’s lesson, however, is learning to deal with disappointment. Neptune is about sacrifice: sacrificing the imagination for what lies beyond it. This is the lesson all Venus/Neptune people need to learn.
The best way to deal with the harsh aspects between Venus and Neptune is to take advantage of the enormous dissatisfaction that is generated. The gift of the hard aspects is that the increased tension drives people to do something about it.
Many Venus/Neptune people are artists who have created amazing pieces that touch the masses.
They can also focus that energy on charity work and volunteer work. Giving their dissatisfaction a healthy outlet keeps their partner from becoming the focus of their frustrated dreams.
This way the Venus/Neptune person can live in the real world. They will become a gentle, sensitive partner who has learned to offer authentic love.
Are you a Venus/Neptune person, or are you in a relationship with a Venus/Neptune person? Tell us about it inside comments below.
