I’ve written before about the types of partners/lovers you’re attracted to and what you do to get their attention. But what about the people you attract without trying? I’m talking about the types who always seem to be attracted to you, whether you’re interested or not. This magnetic attraction synastry.
The 8th House
You can blame the 8th House for this. It is ruled by Scorpio and represents sex, shared resources, death, compulsions, phobias and anything else you have no control over. Opposite the 2nd House of Security, almost everything about the 8th makes people uncomfortable– including those it attracts.
The kind of people you magnetize is determined by the sign on the cusp of the 8th.
For example, if your 8th House cusp is in Aquarius, you will attract Aquarius types. Let’s say the ruler of Aquarius (Uranus) is in your 4th House, conjunct your Moon in Libra.
You will attract those who upset your emotional (Moon) balance (Libra). They will have a deep impact on you as the 4th House represents family, childhood and your past. Note that they don’t have to be Sun sign Aquarians. They could have Aquarius emphasized in their chart by sign, planet (Uranus) or house (11th House).
Can you change this?
So what should you do with this 8th House energy if you don’t like who you attract? Can you change things? Yes and no. Aquarius on the cusp of the 8th will always be Aquarius. If you want to attract more stable types, you cannot change the sign to Capricorn.
But the 8th is about transformation. It contains all your baggage, so the people it attracts will reflect what’s in your psychological basement.
Back to our Aquarius example. Moon conjunction Uranus indicates a conflicting desire for stability and excitement. You are not happy when you are single, but restlessness arises when you relax. Hence the exciting, disturbing people you attract. The key is to find a balance at home (4th House) between freedom and security.
This can be done with an understanding partner or a home business that meets your emotional needs. Once this internal balance is achieved, the people you attract can become more interesting instead of disturbing. They will be inspiring friends instead of traumatizing loved ones.
Let’s look at another example
Scorpio on the cusp of the 8th and Pluto (ruler of Scorpio) on the 7th.
“Great,” you might think. I attract the kind of men I consider ideal partners, partners of the 7th House. But maybe these guys become controlling, possessive stalkers. When do you get into a relationship where you can really breathe? Since the 7th represents your projected qualities, the key would be to work on your own sense of power. Then you could experience an intense, passionate relationship without manipulation.
The 8th House is not easy. It represents some of the most challenging problems humans will ever face. Often it’s easier to avoid it altogether. This is why dealing with the people it magnetizes can be so difficult. Just remember that the energy the 8th emits starts from within (Scorpion). You can’t change it completely, but you can change it with tools ranging from basic self-awareness to therapy.
Once the energy shifts, the types you attract will become the healthiest people for you.
