Tarot is a brilliant tool for a number of different and personal purposes, but many of the most popular questions revolve around romantic partnerships, love, commitment and compatibility. The heart can be something mysterious. When we long for clarity, understanding, or new perspectives, the cards can help us break through our own biases and gain a better, more authentic understanding of these connections.
When it comes to partnerships and love connections, Tarot is so valuable for sparking conversations or giving us context and archetypes to clarify our feelings.
We may not always know that we are at the beginning of a new journey and may not consciously take steps to step away from an old pattern and into a new adventure – but if we can tell someone we trust that we have fooled drawn a lot lately and that we are excited about the feeling of openness and expectation that has built up within us, which can help clarify what we want, need or dream of.
Weaving the wisdom of the Tarot into our daily conversations gives us a new language to communicate with, a new set of tools to use in sharing our hearts.
Pull Tarot cards with a current or potential partner can be a great way to get to know each other, both by facilitating a deeper conversation and enjoying the closeness that comes with this type of ritual.
If you’re still defining your relationship, or you’re looking for a more intimate connection, reading Tarot together can be a beautiful way to explore your similarities and differences and celebrate the ways you each share the approach relationship. Cards.
And if you’ve been with this person for a long time, reading together can encourage new layers of intimacy, bring back fond memories, or stimulate new ideas.
The following Tarot spread is simple and intended to be used with your partner, rather than alone or on behalf of someone else.
You can also use this with a friend, family member, or anyone else you love and want to deepen your connection with. It can highlight the needs and desires you both have, helping you find common ground and new ways to interact or support each other.
And if you’re looking for a new activity, topic, hobby, or goal to explore together, the final card can provide a starting point for something you both might like to pursue.
How to use this tarot spread
Before you delve into this spread or make a habit of pulling out your cards every time you have a question about a crush, relationship, breakup, or challenge, it’s important that you spend some time thinking about your beliefs around Tarot and what you think it is. these cards have to offer you.
Personally, I don’t lectures to people without their consent, including partners, friends and love interests – to me it feels invasive, a breach of trust that I’m not comfortable with (both personally and professionally).
It’s so easy to misinterpret the cards when reading to someone who isn’t involved in the reading, plus I certainly wouldn’t want anyone to gain insight into my emotions or desires without my permission or approval! Communication is key in relationships, and if you are using your cards to avoid a real conversation, I would kindly suggest that you put your cards away and consider an alternate course of action.
The cards work better as a mirror than a crystal ball, and in my opinion are most useful when we use them for personal reflection rather than as a way to gain insight into someone else’s mind, heart or soul.
Below you can see a sample reading I did using this spread, which will give you an idea of how to use this layout with your partner.
A relationship tarot spread
Card one: Something you both want
Wheel of Fortune
An archetype of change, luck, and cycles, the Wheel of Fortune is a card that explores the forces we cannot control and the ways in which our own sense of power and agency can develop friction with larger universal patterns.
This archetype often encourages us to trust the universe, to remember that bigger things are at play and that even if we are not sure how we will reach our destination, change is just around the corner.
In this first staggered position, both people in this relationship may want things to change in a significant and beautiful way and may even want to surrender to something bigger rather than always feeling like luck is not on their side. Together they can discuss this desire and think about how they can support each other through an important shift ahead.
What would happiness look like?
Card two: something you both need
Dead
Another major arcana archetype, Death, is associated with endings, inevitability, and the beginning of a new cycle.
Echoing some of the themes of the Wheel of FortuneDeath indicates that a change is needed and that both parties long for a real birth, for an opportunity to leave something that is fixed behind and begin a new journey of growth, discovery and joy. Before the next thing can begin, however, something existing must come to an end: an expectation, a belief, an ambition, a dream or even a relationship.
And in order for this couple to find the new beginning they both seem to long for, they will first have to let go of something else each (or as a couple).
It’s important to note that this is just because Dead came up in this lecture, it is not an automatic indication that these two should break up! But this archetype does speak to the need to allow the ‘selves’ to grow and change, to let go of something that is no longer growing or thriving and to give oneself permission to grieve and regroup before they start the next cycle.
Think about it: how can releasing something that has felt permanent make room for something beautiful, powerful, and authentic?
Card three: Something to discover together
5 of wands
A card that lands right in the middle of the fire color, the 5 of Wands, indicates frustration, friction, restlessness, a lack of direction, or a confusing uncertainty about what to pursue.
When this card emerges, it often acknowledges a sense of distraction or internal conflict, prompting us to reflect on how our desires, needs, or passions have changed.
In this exploration position, this card draws attention to the need to clarify ambitions or a sense of purpose, probably both as an individual and for the couple together. What does it mean to understand what we really want? And looking at the first two cards in this reading, what type of medicine might work with the offer of 5 wands?
What does the Tarot tell me in this love reading?
All three of these cards acknowledge a feeling of stagnation, frustration, or a lack of movement; the Wheel of Fortune and Death both speak of change. At the same time, the Magic Wand 5 reflects a desire to overcome a feeling of powerlessness.
These are two people who long to take control of their circumstances, but aren’t sure how to do that.
But if they think about it that way on their own, by joining forces and offering each other new insights, maybe they can find the strength, agency, focus and resources needed to make the progress they both desire .
And by being honest about where they both may need to let go, they can likely support each other in embracing the shifts and transformations that are on the horizon.
When using this spread with your partner, don’t be shy about asking each other how you interpret each card, what the images or symbols on your deck mean to each of you, and how you see these cards telling a story.
Where do you differ, and what truths may lie in those differences? How do the cards speak to you as individuals, but also where you stand as a couple?
Interested in an interactive Tarot reading? Try a free 3-card Tarot spread to see how you can embrace change or watch our video on how to do your own tarot Celtic Cross Tarot Spread.
