Our culture enjoys mythologizing vampires into tragic romantic figures, even though they are essentially parasites that kill humans, quickly or slowly, as a source of food and therefore energy. Ultimately, there is very little romantic about having your life vitality taken away. Once a vampire “sinks his or her teeth into you,” you really only have three ways to end your ordeal: escape, die, or become a parasite yourself.
This article explores a common form of vampirism that we all need to combat; the energy drain created by people in our lives who take energy from us and give us little or nothing in return.
Recognizing an energy vampire (the simple method)
In the Osho Zen tarot there is a card, the 6 of Air, with the expression: the burden. In the image below you see a person slogging up a hill, which in itself would be quite a task. Instead of climbing the hill alone, another individual, who can walk perfectly, rides on the back of the first individual. To make matters worse, there is a Rooster on top of the second person.
Essentially, this card sends the message to the querent that he or she is being burdened by someone in their life who is perfectly capable of walking on their own, but is allowing this person to be a burden to you. When this card is drawn, I tell the customer to think about the phone ringing, looking at the caller ID and thinking, “I don’t want to talk to this person.” You immediately feel that your energy is draining away.
The message of the card is: ‘Get this person away from you’. Delete their phone number from your phone and remove them from your life. You already know they are an energy vampire. As is often the case, the client reveals that often the first person that comes to mind when I use the telephone example is their mother or father or their child.
Energy vampires are spiritual tests
When it turns out that the most profound energy vampire in one’s life is a parent or a child (yes, a child can be a burden and psychologically drain your energy), then the work to escape or resist is deeply karmic and spiritual in nature. It’s a terrible situation to know that when your parent calls or your child calls, you immediately know that your energy will be depleted talking and interacting with them.
Without a doubt, the best solution regarding energy vampires is to stop giving them your energy, which means breaking away and escaping. But for many, probably most, especially if a family member is involved, escape is too difficult an option and the spiritual test is a “Kobayashi Maru”. The Kobayashi Maru is an unwinnable test in the fictional world of Star Trek that is used to determine how cadets deal with inevitable failure.
If your energy vampire is a Kobayashi-maru test, you will need to learn and implement energy survival techniques to prevent the drain of your energy from becoming a debilitating or devastating impact on your life.
Ways to resist energy vampires
If you can’t escape and don’t want to “die” or become the parasite that steals your energy, then you will have to find a way to store energy, protect yourself and accept the energy loss by using the energy with greater gain compensate. elsewhere.
Distance
One of the easiest methods to avoid the inevitable energy vampire is to create physical distance between you and the person. In our modern age, this is not as effective as it once was, back when we didn’t have the internet and cell phones, but it still has its benefits. Restricting easy physical access can help, as proximity in physical space is the most draining and where/how the energy vampire can do the most damage.
Restrict access
Instead of giving people immediate and full access, use technology to your advantage. Customers often have an “a-ha” moment when I tell them that they can set the parameters of every phone call by making it their policy to let every call go to voicemail, even if they can answer the phone immediately. Once the message is left, they can listen to it as soon as the other person hangs up to find out if it’s a real emergency or just another “emergency.” Energy vampires feed best when they can control both your response time and the content of the discussion.
You may know that the discussion is just a record of blame, self-pity, victimhood, criticism, or disappointment. And maybe you know just suck it up and accept it, but you don’t have to follow the discussion on the vampire’s schedule. If you implement a wait-to-respond policy and stick to it, the vampire may care at first, but they will also develop a new fear that you might decide not to call back, which will affect their behavior. Changing everything is always possible Defcon 1 or 2, to Defcon 4 or 5.
Charge before the meeting
In fictional vampire worlds, the human food supply lasts longer if it is kept in good health. By feeding the human snack nutritious meals and time to rest, the vampire can continue to get what it needs without killing his or her food source. Energy vampires are predictable; their patterns become apparent over time, meaning you can find ways to boost your energy before you get bitten. Meditation and/or energy movement to center your energy field can help immensely if you can control the times of your meeting.
Psychological shielding
There is another, much more detailed article on psychic shielding that I have written in the past that may provide several ways to create and use a psychic shield. One of the best methods of dealing with an energy vampire that you can’t shake is to design or select a talisman specifically designed to shield and deflect an energy vampire’s attempts to steal your energy. to prevent. It’s especially useful if you can use it as a ‘touchstone’ when the energy vampire starts criticizing or playing the victim (when it clearly isn’t). If you can touch a ring, bracelet, or necklace while interacting with the energy vampire, it may help you get through the encounter.
Compensation
Compensating is what many of us do to control an energy vampire that we cannot escape. Any man who has taken up golf or any woman who has taken up tennis, to leave the house they share with an energy vampire, ‘compensates’ by doing something they really love to get enough energy to return home . Just the thought of being able to escape temporarily, but most importantly, into something that charges you with joy, can give you the ability to “survive another day.”
Finally
An energy vampire will not or cannot change its behavior as long as it has a fuel source. In most fictional vampire worlds, a vampire can only survive by consuming human blood, so there is no way for the vampire to “not be a vampire.” But energy vampires can change if their vampirism is an addiction and not a condition. Break the addiction and certain energy vampires can find ways to develop healthy energy. But whether it’s an addiction or a condition, once you realize you have an energy vampire in your life, the only truly safe place for you is away from them.
