Love can be challenging in more ways than one, and you can have your fair share of baggage (even if you haven’t had many relationships). To help you with this, we’re going to explore five love karma rituals that can help you live a better love life.
The first ritual involves the use of crystals.
It is best to use a crystal that has been energetically cleansed. You can do this by soaking it in sea salt for 24 hours and leaving it in the light of the sun and moon for a day, or by trying one of these seven ways to cleanse crystals.
1. Eliminating love baggage from past lives
You may have some with you baggage from past lives that has to do with love and relationships. This can weigh heavily on you and any relationships you have, a weight that holds you back or prevents you from realizing the full potential of love in your life.
Almost everyone carries baggage from past lives, which affects different parts of our lives. This baggage can seem especially annoying when it affects our love lives and relationships.
Beyond the ritual mentioned, some helpful things you can do include paying attention to your dreams (which may contain messages for you about specific baggage that needs to be worked on) or undergoing past life regression therapy (with a professional).
This ritual helps remove some of the weight on your heart. For this ritual you will need:
Step 1
Find a quiet place to lie down (couch, bed, floor). Take a few deep breaths to calm down.
Step 2
Lie down and place the black crystal on your chest, above your heart. Imagine the baggage of past lives as energy flowing from your heart and being drawn into the crystal. Let your intuition tell you how long to do this (when it feels like you’ve let go enough).
Step 3
Place the crystal in the container.
Lie back down and place the clear quartz crystal in the same place on your heart. Now imagine soothing, pleasant, loving energy leaving the crystal and entering your heart. Again, let your intuition tell you how long to do this.
Step 4
When you’re done, put the container with the black crystal somewhere where you won’t see it. Keep the clear quartz on hand and hold it above your heart whenever you feel the need.
2. Letting go of a toxic karmic relationship
Karmic relationships are tricky little devils. They are usually confused with soulmate and twin flame relationships, but they are not the same.
The purpose of one karmic relationship is mostly to teach you. You and the other person made an agreement before the incarnation to meet at a certain point and give lessons.
This often means that karmic relationships are temporary and not meant to last, but they can be difficult to let go of. They can become addictive, consuming, frustrating and cyclical – so it’s quite easy for them to become toxic.
This ritual will help you let go of that toxic person. For this ritual you will need:
- 1 piece of paper
- A black pen or marker
- 1 black candle (a tealight may be best as it burns out quickly)
Step 1
Write the other person’s name on the paper with the black pen/marker and then your own. Then write: “I release this relationship for the highest good of all.”
Step 2
Light the candle and burn the paper. Let the candle burn out and then remove the paper ash (flush it down the toilet or bury it outside).
3. Forgive betrayal
Cheating is almost as common as cold, and there are all kinds of betrayals that don’t involve it. It can be hard to let go, but holding on to it will only hurt you more and make future relationships more challenging.
And remember: forgiving someone who has betrayed you doesn’t mean letting him or her back into your life. Forgiveness is about allowing yourself to move on, and not allowing them to get back at you. It’s okay to never see, hear, or think about them again!
This ritual helps place the person in the past. For this ritual you will need:
- A photo of the person who betrayed you
- A black candle
- Some garlic (powder would be best, otherwise smash a bulb)
- Small holder
Step 1
Burn the image with the candle. As it burns, think of the betrayal, all the pain and anger, and imagine it being burned along with the photo.
Step 2
Mix the photo ash with the garlic and place in a small container. Bury the container outside.
A quick note: since the container is to be buried outside, make sure it is biodegradable; you can also make an origami box out of paper and use that instead.
4. Letting go of rejection
Rejection happens to all of us, and it’s definitely not fun, but it’s more or less inevitable and doesn’t have to be a problem. Things get bad when you can’t let go of the person who rejected you and make a big drama out of it.
Just because someone rejects you doesn’t mean you’re terrible, and no one will want you. It just wasn’t right with that person. Maybe you built it up in your head, but it just didn’t turn out that way.
Still, it can leave you feeling stitches, so letting go of that rejection can be important so you aren’t so afraid of it happening again.
This ritual helps you let go of the rejection you are holding on to. For this ritual you will need:
- A notebook or several pieces of paper
- Something to write with
Step 1
Write the entire rejection down as a story. Put it on paper and out of your mind.
Step 2
When you’re done, write on a blank piece of paper: I’m letting this go. Then throw away the notebook/paper (or better yet, recycle it).
5. Overcome fear of commitment
Maybe your love problem is that you’re a commitment-phobe. This can be the result of all kinds of issues, whether it’s baggage from a past life, betrayal by an ex, or a childhood trauma that makes you hesitate.
It’s normal to worry about being hurt by someone, but avoiding commitment can lead to problems in all your relationships over time. It’s important to get over that fear.
This ritual helps you get rid of fear. For this ritual you will need:
- A clear glass
- Water (drinkable)
- 2 pieces of paper
- A black pen or marker
- Something to burn the paper (candle, match, lighter, etc.)
Step 1
This ritual should be performed at night (when the moon is shining). Take a piece of paper and write down “fear of commitment.” This is what you want to let go of.
Step 2
Burn the paper and throw away the ashes (flush them down the toilet or bury them outside). Then take the second sheet of paper and write the affirmation: “I am open and receptive to healthy and positive commitment.”
Step 3
Fill the glass with water. Fold the paper and place the glass on top. Make sure you leave this under the light of the moon (for example on a windowsill) for 1 hour.
Step 4
Drink the water and put the paper somewhere where you won’t see it. Say the affirmation daily.
